When I look around I see too many people trying to force themselves through workouts they don't care about to win the approval of people that don't really matter.
What I suggest is an approach that places who you are at the center.
When you build fitness from the inside out, you no longer have to force or guilt yourself to stay in shape.
This short video explains what I mean.
Well first, you're going to need to stop a few things. Namely...
Once you've done that, it's time to figure out what you need to thrive.
So, who are you? Well, the way I see it there are two levels of who you are:
The shame in our world is that we are all trying to pretend we're not animals, we think we're "higher beings" or something that are beyond basic needs. But the truth is we need good food, movement, sun, air, water and loving support just like all other apes. Take any of those things away, and you can be sure that our health and fitness will suffer.
Getting back to a thriving body means we need to honor our "apeness" by taking control of our own environments, and building better habits.
It might sound bizarre, but consider what kind of zoo you'd build if you wanted humans to thrive in their health and fitness. Model your own environment around that to the best of your abilities.
Your environment shapes who you are most, if you don't take control of it, you're fighting a losing battle.
The second piece is to look at what you uniquely need. Maybe that's to be more disciplined, to have more social support, to take on a new identity about what you're really capable of.
If you can become aware of what you (not anyone else) most deeply need to thrive, then it's a matter of honoring what you need, rather than forcing, shaming and guilting yourself to go to the gym.
Of course, that requires that you slow down, check in with yourself, and listen to the signals your body is sending you. Perhaps you need to stretch more, to go outside more, to let go of trying to live up to some ridiculous expectations.
Whatever it is, know that it is a continual practice. Your best self is revealed in every day that you show up and honor who you are, where you are, and what you need.
Becoming the fittest, most badass version of yourself can really be as simple as that.
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